Is it normal for condoms to slip a little?
Finding the perfect condom size is hard, especially when you lack experience and don’t know how a condom should fit. If your penis is on the smaller side and you’ve been led to believe that regular size condoms are universal, wondering whether the condom should slip a little is legit.
So, before discussing sizes and which kind of condom is right for you, let’s have a word on condom fitting.
According to sexual healthcare specialists, condoms are supposed to be tight but not uncomfortable. Getting back to the original question, the answer is no. It is not normal for condoms to slip a little – that is, if you’re wearing the right size condom and your penis is fully erect.
Due to society leading to believe that size matters, it is surprising how many men buy a larger size condom just to prove to their partner they have been gifted in that department. That said, research says that women are much less interested in the penis size than men – in a study from the University of Sheffield, Professor Wylie, a sexual medicine consultant, concluded that 85% of women are perfectly happy with their partners’ size even if the dimensions are on the lower side.
What matters is for you to pay attention to her needs and desires rather than displaying a long shaft. And among those needs, may be the one to use the right size condom so that you prevent pregnancy and limit the risk of sexually transmitted infections.
How to determine what condom size I need?
The first step is to measure your penis. Condom manufacturers know each man is unique, so you have quite a few options to consider once you’ve determined your own size.
To measure the length:
- Use a ruler or measuring tape to measure the length of your erect penis from the tip of your penis to the base (the part that meets your pelvis). When measuring, press the ruler or measuring tape into your groin until you feel resistance to compensate for fat, hair, and skin. Always measure on the top side of your penis, and if you have a bent penis, use a flexible measuring tape and follow the shaft’s curve to measure its full length.
To measure girth:
- Use a flexible measuring tape or a string and ruler to measure the circumference of your erect penis at its thickest point (usually around the middle of your shaft). Divide your girth by 3.14 to find out its width, then use this number to find out what size condom fits you.
Because most brands make their condoms longer than necessary, measuring the girth and figuring out what nominal width the condom should have is much more important than focusing on the length.
What size are extra small condoms?
Extra small condoms can vary in size from around 43mm of nominal width to 49mm. Small condoms in the UK and Europe usually have a nominal width between 45mm and 49mm. That said, there are quite a few brands and condom styles that you can choose from:
|Product name||Nominal width||Length||Thickness||Material||Lubrication||Texture|
|My.Size 45mm||45mm||160mm||0.050mm||Natural rubber latex||Silicone||Smooth|
|My.Size 47mm||47mm||160mm||0.050mm||Natural rubber latex||Silicone||Smooth|
|My.Size 49mm||49mm||160mm||0.050mm||Natural rubber latex||Silicone||Smooth|
|Glyde Slim Fit||49mm||170mm||0.062mm||Natural rubber latex||Silicone||Smooth|
|Glyde Slim Fit Red||49mm||170mm||0.062mm||Natural rubber latex||Silicone||Smooth, red colour|
|Glyde Slim Fit Strawberry||49mm||170mm||0.062mm||Natural rubber latex||Silicone, strawberry flavoured||Smooth, red colour|
|Pasante Trim||49mm||180mm||0.070mm||Natural rubber latex||Silicone||Smooth|
|EXS Snug Fit||49mm||166mm||0.073mm||Natural rubber latex||Silicone||Smooth|
|ON Little Tiger||49mm||170mm||0.070mm||Natural rubber latex||Silicone||Smooth|
Why does the condom slip off if I use a right size condom?
Condoms rarely slip off if you’re using the right size. That said, using your condom the wrong way may also result in it slipping off or breaking during intercourse. Here are some of the most common causes.
You’re not putting the condom on correctly
Rolling on the condom on the wrong side, not rolling it all the way down to the base of your penis, or putting on the condom before your penis is fully erect may all result in the condom slipping off during intercourse. The condom can also slip off when you’re withdrawing from your partner if you don’t hold the condom or wait until your penis goes limp before withdrawing. To prevent all this, you should:
- Always put on the condom when your penis is fully erect.
- Don’t use the condom if you’ve rolled it on the wrong side. To figure out which side should be up, remember that the rim of the condom should always be on the outside (allowing for an easy rolling down your penis shaft).
- Roll the condom all the way down to the base of your penis. Failing to do so may result in the condom slipping off during sex.
- Make sure there is sufficient natural lubrication or use an intimate lubricant. Vaginal dryness or anal intercourse performed without sufficient lubrication may cause too much friction between the condom and rectum or vaginal canal, which could result in the condom slipping off or breaking.
- Always pinch the teat end to remove air before rolling on the condom. Air left inside the teat can cause the condom to burst during intercourse.
- Always hold the condom firm at the base of your penis and withdraw from your partner immediately after ejaculating, before your penis becomes flaccid.
You’re using too much lube inside the condom
Most condoms come pre-lubricated. Yet, many people find they prefer slightly more lubrication, especially inside the condom. However, if you use more than one or two drops of lube inside the condom and apply it on the condom’s shaft rather than only at the tip, things can get too slippery, and the condom could slide off. So, if you really want to add extra lube inside the condom, make sure you only use a small quantity of product.
You may have partially lost your erection
Losing an erection whilst having sex is very common, especially in circumstances when you’re focusing more on your partner than yourself. However, if this happens, you should withdraw immediately and bin the condom. Indulge in foreplay until you’re hard again, then roll on a new condom before intercourse.
The condom may slip off due to your position
Although this situation is rather rare, the condom may slip off when having sex in certain positions. If you feel it sliding off, switch to another position. In the future, avoid those positions that may cause the condom to slip off.
What can happen if the condom slips off before ejaculation?
If a condom slips off inside your partner, it leaves both of you exposed to a higher risk of sexually transmitted infections whilst also increasing the risk of unwanted pregnancy.
If you are in a monogamous relationship (you only have sex with one other person, and your partner only has sex with you), and you have both been tested and resulted negative for sexually transmitted infections, there is no elevated risk of STI. However, if you, your partner, or both have sex with other people, too, you should consult your doctor and get tested for STIs as soon as possible.
If you’re using condoms for contraception rather than protection from infections (for instance, if you’re in a monogamous relationship and your partner doesn’t use any form of hormonal contraception, such as the pill, contraceptive patch, injection, or intrauterine device), there is a higher risk of pregnancy even if you have not yet ejaculated.
Indeed, the condom may already be contaminated with seminal fluids that contain sperm, and that could work their way into the womb. Thus, if the condom slipped off or broke during intercourse and you haven’t used another form of contraception, you should consult your doctor and get emergency contraception (the morning after pill).
How can I tell if my condom broke during intercourse?
Another frequent question you may ask yourself is whether you can tell if the condom broke during intercourse.
Typically, you can. In most cases, you will notice a change in sensations when the condom breaks. If this happens, you should withdraw immediately, dispose of the condom, and seek medical help for emergency contraception and STI testing.
Keep in mind that your partner will unlikely notice any differences, so it is solely your responsibility to pay attention.
In rare cases, you won’t be able to tell if the condom broke during intercourse. That’s why it is important to inspect the condom before throwing it in the bin. If you notice any leaks or fissures, assume that the condom broke during intercourse and seek specialist help.
What condom should I use if I am allergic to latex?
Whilst non-latex condoms exist – made of either polyurethane or polyisoprene – you may find that most non-latex condoms have a regular or large size. Extra small non latex condoms are a rarity, so you’ll have to use an alternative if you need a small size condom, but you or your partner are allergic to latex. Here are a few options:
- Female condoms: Are somewhat similar to male condoms but must be inserted inside the vagina. A silicone ring keeps the condom in place and prevents any leaks. Like male condoms, female condoms prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. They are typically made of polyurethane (some brands have started switching to polyisoprene) and are ideal for those who need a small size condom but are allergic to latex. Female condoms are also a great contraceptive method if you can’t find a condom that fits right. If used correctly, female condoms are around 95% effective. Male condoms, in comparison, are effective in around 98% of cases.
- Diaphragm: If you’re not concerned about sexually transmitted infections and only need a condom to prevent pregnancy, you could switch to a diaphragm if you or your partner are allergic to latex. Diaphragms are devices made of soft silicone and designed to cover the cervix. They must be fitted by a doctor, but you won’t have to remove them or replace them each time you have sex. Because they only cover the cervix, diaphragms don’t protect against STIs.
- Cervical cap: Similar to a diaphragm but smaller, the cervical cap is fitted only on the cervix’s opening. Some women may find it more comfortable than a diaphragm. Both cervical caps and diaphragms are around 88% effective when used correctly, without spermicide. When used with spermicide, their effectiveness goes up to around 96%.
- Sponge cover: An alternative to both female condoms and diaphragms, the sponge cover is an intra-vaginal device soaked in spermicide that covers the cervix and kills the sperm before it can reach the womb. Sponge covers are available in pharmacies or family planning clinics and do not have to be fitted by a doctor. Sponge covers are the least effective of all alternative methods, with around 14% of women getting pregnant despite having used the cover correctly.
If you or your partner are allergic to latex, remember that all alternative methods except female condoms are more effective if you use additional spermicide. However, keep in mind that spermicide can irritate your penis or vagina, and it can also increase the risk of urinary tract infections in women. For these reasons, using female condoms without spermicide lube is your best bet if you can’t find latex-free male condoms of the right size.
If your partner is allergic to latex and she decides to use a female condom, avoid using both types of condoms at the same time to prevent condom breakage.
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